On Compatibility

Had a random, spur-of-the-moment thought earlier.

Out of nowhere, I realized that you can't really force compatibility. It is never about one person going at out of her way being the person which she thinks her partner wants her to be. Well, up to a certain degree, I guess you'd have to compromise and meet the other person halfway. But if you start overhauling your personality, your habits, your routine, your wants and your aspirations for that other person, then there must be some dysfunction going on somewhere in the relationship.

I think compatibility is about you being yourself, and finding a person who appreciates the person that you are. And of course, it follows that you feel the same way towards that same person =) It's a two-way street. And I don't mean just appreciating the good stuff, I mean loving you in all your nice, sweet side, and more importantly, adoring you when you're at your smelliest, ugliest, bitch-est mode. Ok, at least endure, if not adore.

And as I write this here in the office, I realized this goes for relationships, as much as for work. Hahaha. Bottomline, if you have to work so hard for it, then at one point you'd get tired, eh? And some genius once said, find a job which you love and you'd never have to work for the rest of your life.

Here's sending a message to the universe that I'd find THAT person and THAT job I'm compatible with =)